My First Time is a regular feature in which
writers talk about virgin experiences in their writing and publishing careers,
ranging from their first rejection to the moment of holding their first
published book in their hands. Today’s guest is Jennifer Spiegel, author of the just-released debut novel
Love Slave from Unbridled Books. Her collection of short stories,
The Freak Chronicles, was released earlier this year by Dzanc Books. Regular readers of The Quivering Pen may be experiencing a bit of deja vu right now. Yes, it's true: Jennifer Spiegel did contribute to this feature
back in July, so this makes her second "first time." But when the writing is as sharp and delightful as what Jennifer brings to the screen, I'm happy to give QP readers a double-dose of Spiegel. If you want the full shot of 100-proof JS, you can visit her website
here.
My First Literary Crush
Everyone
always says
Holden Caulfield, and I suppose I could, too. I’m pretty sure Holden
has something to do with everything.
There
was, however, Raskolnikov a little bit later—and, perhaps, he was my first real
literary crush. Dostoyevsky’s
Crime and
Punishment may have offered me my first perfect bad boy: dark, brooding,
smart, and a family man who WHO SUBSCRIBES TO HIS OWN TWISTED MORAL CODE BORN OUT
OF A WARPED SENSE OF ALTRUISM! And then, then, redemption! We’re talking James Dean
before there was a James Dean! I remember well his shadowy, dusty,
creepy landscape, and its assembly of
disparate parts:
prostitutes and police,
academics and pawnbrokers, St. Petersburg and Siberia. The guilt-ridden human
heart churning, scalding.
Do
yourself a favor and say his entire name aloud:
Rodion Romanovich Raskolnikov.
Um,
yum.
Raskolnikov
was also a foreigner—and every American girl knows foreign guys are
hot!
(Side
note: sometimes, when my husband and I are joking around, I like to say things
like, “How in the world did I end up married to the whitest guy in the world?” This because, prior to me, he had never before eaten hummus. And there’s his
propensity for mayo, which I find ultra-WASPy. I’m being unfair; he does have a
lovely Roman nose, which suggests
otherness,
right?)
I think,
though, my teenage years hit shortly after my early brush with Russian
literature and I turned to British rock stars (also with Roman noses). When I
emerged from that era of utterly-non-altruistic-bad-boys, I had a fairly minor
affection for Salman Rushdie, because he was in hiding and all. That seemed
pretty cool.
But then
there was Douglas Coupland. By the time I got to Doug, it had morphed into
something not terribly romantic. I guess I had grown up. Either that, or I was
experimenting with bitterness and anti-male sentiment. Soon, I’d marry the
whitest man in the world who had never before eaten hummus.
In my
twenties and early thirties, though, I was convinced that Douglas Coupland and
I were supposed to be best friends—like
best
friends. After years of an unrequited literary crush, I had the opportunity to
interview Coupland for
Hayden’s Ferry
Review when he came to town to do a reading for his latest book,
All Families are Psychotic. This was in
2001. I was working on my MFA at Arizona State, I was thirty-one, and
HFR granted me tons of creative license. The interview is unorthodox; it’s more of a creative nonfiction piece. It’s not
online, but you can find “Douglas Coupland: Who Is This Guy? (Or, Generation X
Lamentations)” in Fall/Winter 2001 Issue 29. The interview is pretty great, if
you ask me. But now, I’m going to share some of the behind-the-scenes stuff.
I just
wanted to be his best friend. That’s not so far-fetched, is it?
I was
supposed to meet him at his hotel, which was right next to the Borgata of
Scottsdale, this fancy shopping place (“mall” sounds a little low class here),
which looks like a medieval castle. It’s still there, though I don’t know who frequents
it. Tourists? Old people? Ultra-WASPy old tourists? Do you need to put a gag in
my mouth to stop me now? Am I crossing the line? Can someone sue me for saying
this stuff? I’ll tell you this: this shopping center does not have a pet store
or a Sbarro pizza. (And since having kids with the whitest guy in the world, I
don’t do shopping centers without pet stores.)
We met
at Coupland’s hotel, which was next door. I was trembling and sweating,
preparing for my role as “Fascinating Young Woman.” I needed to lure him in
somehow. I needed to be witty, smarmy, deep, atypical, observant, philosophical
but not annoying. So I arrived with two cups of coffee from Starbucks, because
those kind of people often drink coffee.
And let
me just add this detail to your mental image:
the coffees, which were relatively expensive for me, were genuine
tokens of my affection.
We
walked to the Borgata, holding our cups. Though I looked like a shabby grad
student (blue jeans, Jansport backpack) and Coupland is Canadian, he looked
pretty spiffy. I can’t totally remember, but maybe he was wearing yellow? Can I
be sued over that—like if he were actually wearing navy or gray?
This is
the kicker. We needed a place to sit to do the interview. I had my
mini-cassette recorder in my purse. Coupland said he needed to eat something. There was an Italian restaurant ahead of us. We walked towards it. As he strolled,
Doug
dropped his cup of coffee into the
trash.
I was
crushed.
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| Douglas Coupland, Coffee-Tosser |
In
college, I once saw the guy I thought I loved coming down our dormitory hall
holding his underwear in his hands. He was walking next to some girl I despised
for no reason, and it was a Saturday morning; the yawning, stretching, and
sweet talk said enough. Not to mention the underwear. I was working at the
front desk, and they had to pass me. I had a job to do, answering phones,
buzzing people when their guests arrived. Our eyes met, and I had to hide it
away, bury any anguish—just like he had to ball up his boxers in the palm of
his hand, clenching his fist. We were both concealing something.
Much
later, a man—not a college boy at all—told me I was pretty in an unusual way—a
“different way,” he said—but he wanted to be with someone else. In my mind, she
was pretty in a normal, ordinary,
common
way. The man was calmly deciding between me and another woman, like he was
choosing between brands, between Coke and Pepsi, Shamrock and whatever. The
relationship hadn’t gone too far, though I had kissed him in front of an
Einstein’s Bagels—and, now, the thought filled me with something like
self-loathing. How had I let myself be put up for auction? How had I done this,
and why had I kissed him? He thought he looked like Kenny Chesney, that’s what
he said. He didn’t, nor did I care about Kenny Chesney. But that kiss! I don’t
know if I hid my pain then or if I unleashed this inexplicable fury that masked
my bruised self, my injury. Did I let him have it? Did I deliver a violent
tirade or sink into myself, pretending it was okay?
Douglas
Coupland once threw out the cup of coffee I bought him as part of my performance
as “Fascinating Young Woman.” The toss was casual, incidental—he meant nothing
by it at all—but I knew we would not become best friends, privileged members in
one another’s lives. I went on with the interview, and it was a very good interview
indeed.
Before
you get the wrong idea, please know that Coupland offered to buy me dinner at
the Italian restaurant. When I declined, he insisted. I still declined. But he
would’ve bought me dinner at a super crazy-expensive restaurant. Know, also,
that he personally signed my books that night at the reading—and he said very
nice, totally flattering things inside my copies which I still have today.
After
the reading, we never saw each other again. I never heard from him either. I
wrote this kick-ass interview. I tried to get him to write a blurb on the back
of one of my books. It didn’t happen. He never responded to my e-mails.
I’m over
it.